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Resilient Marriages
June 26, 2017

Jesus Christ Grew In 4 Areas And These Are The Key Areas Of A Strong Relationship

Book of Mormon Marriage And Family Study

1 Nephi 16: 20

“And it came to pass that Laman and Lemuel and the sons of Ishmael did begin to murmur exceedingly, because of their sufferings and afflictions in the wilderness.”

How Can Couples Become Resilient To Sufferings and Afflictions?

Jesus Christ grew grace by grace in four areas, and these will also help you become resilient in marriage. You need all four of these because otherwise you will become vulnerable.

  1. Spiritual
  2. Mental
  3. Physical
  4. Social (emotional)

Spirituality is the most important! Why? Our goal is for our spirit to control our body. However, sadly spiritual death is the greatest tragedy and is also the most common.

Even though the spiritual is the most important, we can’t neglect the mental, physical, or social. These other three builds and completes you, which is the definition of perfection. Perfection is not living without weakness or never making a mistake. If that were your standard no wonder so many people are on antidepressants.

Your body is a temple! Therefore, what you do to it is critically important. This is why we can’t take for granted good health because we can easily destroy it by our bad choices. For example, a bad diet of processed and fast food will eventually make us chronically ill. Additionally, rotting our brains out in front of the TV all day will damage both our mental and physical health.

Also, you will have a very hard time feeling the spirit if your body is sick especially if it is chronically ill. Furthermore, drugs, alcohol and pornography damage the brain and soul because these are addictions that drive the spirit away. And, they kill your agency. You are a slave to your addiction.

Furthermore, there are many behavioral addictions such as email, cell phone, social media and TV addictions that indirectly harm the body because of the amount of time we waste by constantly checking our phone for emails or Facebook updates.

Your mind is the front lines in this war against Satan. Every person born to earth is in a war with the Devil, and it started in the preexistence.

President Russell M. Nelson said, “It is mentally rigorous to strive to look unto Him in every thought. But when we do, our doubts and fears flee.”

President Faust taught, “I believe reading the scriptures is the best washing machine for unclean or uncontrolled thoughts.”

Furthermore, light-mindedness is a problem and does nothing to build marriage and family. For example, I can’t imagine how conversations about TV shows or movies or anything else on mass media would be edifying in marriage and I can’t see how it is an effective bonding tool. Mostly it is a distraction from problems.

Reading and talking about the best books is much better!

No book is better than the Book Of Mormon to build and save your marriage. It is the convincing power of Christ unto salvation.

Finally, the social and emotional part is everything to a woman. The quality of your sexual intimacy is dependent on how well you can emotionally connect with her. Men enjoy sex for the act itself; however, for women if they don’t feel treasured and loved in an emotional way, sex means little to nothing to them.

You could get in a fight with your wife and still be ready for intimacy. But not your wife! She wouldn’t want to be touched.

For example, couples who are best friends enjoy a much greater sex life in their 60’s than they did in their 20’s when they hadn’t yet built their friendship.

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